My boyfriend has been working away for 5 weeks so I haven’t seen him. He’s back from work today. I go on vacation tomorrow. We planned to spend quality time together tonight before I go away.

Whilst at work today, he messaged me saying he wanted to go hang out with his friends. I simply said “oh right… have fun”. He then responded saying “don’t worry I’m not going to go, I know we have plans”.

Fast forward to him coming home, we’re cuddling on the couch and he says to me “what would you have done if I said yes to my friends tonight? You’d have been so angry” and was laughing whilst saying it. I was very honest and said that I would seriously reconsider being in a relationship with him if he would’ve made that decision. That’s a major boundary of mine and he would have crossed it.

My boyfriend kicks off at this. Calls me insane and said I don’t “value the relationship” because I’m so quick to break up with him if he makes a mistake. I continuously said “but you never made the wrong decision. You done the right thing?” But he kept going “but what if I hadn’t. What if I genuinely wanted to see my friends? You would’ve broken up with me over that??that’s crazy behaviour.” I calmly explained that yes I would’ve reconsidered the relationship. In my eyes; we‘ve not seen each other in 5 weeks. We’ve been planning this one night the entire time he’s been away. He’s been away with the friends he wants to play football with when working. So he’s seen them, he hasn’t seen me.

Am I the asshole here? He won’t speak to me and I leave for my flight in a few hours.