Me (20F) and my boyfriend (20M), started a relationship back in November 2024. We had known each other for some time and developed feelings for each other. He eventually asked me out and I said yes. We started spending more time together, usually me staying at his place for a few days every week to pretty much living there. I found out I was pregnant in December 2024, just before Christmas. My boyfriend was with me when I took the test and he was overjoyed. We had discussed the idea of pregnancy beforehand and we spoke about our concerns as this was slightly unplanned. We decided to go through with the pregnancy and I'm now 20 weeks. About his brother, I don't really know him. Apparently he often saw me taking the same bus route as him and I had no idea. This was before I was with my boyfriend. For some reason he thought had to tell me this? I thought it was a little creepy. He then started sitting near me on the bus and trying to talk to me, asking if I'd rather date him or my boyfriend, which again was weird. This was before I found out I was pregnant. Me and my boyfriend visited his brother a few times at the beginning of our relationship as he loved close to me. I thought we was developing a close relationship and that he thought I could be a good addition to his family. But after recent developments, I found this to not be the case. His brother is 24 and is married. I can't remember just how old she is, but they got married after she found out she was pregnant in December the previous year, so they now have a daughter who at the time, was 3 months old. My boyfriends brother never really let him near his niece which I thought was unfair but that's something I can't help much with. Me and my boyfriend had a few falling outs at the beginning of the relationship, which have now overcome. We was still used to the whole idea of being together and spending so much time together. The mood swings and stress from the beginning of my pregnancy also played a part in this. My boyfriend would usually go to his brother about the falling outs and his brother would usually say I'm lying about this which were actually true, whenever he asked for my side of the story. My boyfriend also said how what I said was true but his brother wouldn't listen. I was unaware of the fact that the brother was saying all this as him and his wife were still quite sweet to me. But soon after, I found out my boyfriend had also told them about the pregnancy which I was upset about as I made it clear to him that I wanted to wait until I was 12 weeks before making any announcement. I found out he had told his brother via a message from his wife saying congratulations. I wss confused and asked my boyfriend several times what she meant and he finally told me the truth. I also found out how they truly felt about me from overhearing a phone call between my boyfriend and his brother, where the brother called me a stupid bitch for doing what I did. Which I'm assuming was me leaving my boyfriend for a brief period of time because I couldn't deal all the lies and uncertainty that I was dealing with. After that incident, I pushed for more details and also found out that his brother was saying how he was going to take my unborn child away from me and that he was going to claim that I'm an unfit mother. That he was also going to get my dogs taken from me as I neglect them. Someone actually came around some time after to see the dogs, and concluded that they are well looked after. After that, I asked my boyfriend if he could distance himself from his brother for my sake and the baby's sake as it was causing me quite a bit of stress. I had also blocked his brother and his wife on my phone. My boyfriend said that he didn't know if he could do that. Over the next month, his brother would constantly spam call my boyfriend, demanding to video call to check his place to see if I was there. I was scared and hid in the cupboard when my boyfriend answered the call, after my many requests to not answer. I heard his brother shout,saying that he knows I'm there and to just stop lying. My boyfriend kept denying it. His brother said at one point that he would come down to his place and see for himself then. My boyfriend said that if he did, he wouldn't let him in. After that call, his brother kept spamming his phone repeatedly, which caused me to have a panic attack. I was in tears and begging for him to please block him because I couldn't handle that. I said that if he insisted on having his brother in his life then I would have to leave because I did not want that stress in my life and to feel unsafe when I'm at my boyfriends place. He promised me that he would block him and cut him out his life. I was thankful for that. And for the next few weeks It was peaceful. Until I found out that he added his brother back behind my back when I was staying at my place, allowing his brother to talk more trash about me and my unborn child. He stated that I was sleeping around and that my baby wasn't my boyfriends, which is ridiculous cause I hadn't slept with anyone or been with anyone for months before even knowing my boyfriend. Apparently his brother knows my period cycles better than I do as the timing wasn't right? This annoyed me because what the hell. My boyfriend had tried to cover up adding his brother back too and had blocked him. I had found out he had added him back through the call logs on his phone (we have access to each other's phones). I was only on the call logs as I was trying to find my midwifes phone number as she had called us on my boyfriends phone. I confronted my boyfriend about him calling his brother and was in tears because I thought we had put it all behind us, thinking I could move on and focus on my pregnancy, especially when I was always worried about possibly losing the baby. My boyfriend said that he thought his brother would have changed by now and I said that it had only been a few weeks and he had started saying more bad things about me and our baby, so he clearly has just gotten worse. My boyfriend apologised and promised it wouldn't happen again. Fast forward another 2 weeks and I found out he called his brother again and invited him to his place. Which never happened and my boyfriend tried to cover up again. I was upset and didn't speak to my boyfriend for some time. I found out when my dating scan was and let my boyfriend know about the date and time. But he couldn't make it due to an appointment meeting. Before the scan, his brother saw me walking my dog and called me over. My heart was beating so fast as I was terrified of this guy at this point and what he might do. My dog however was constantly trying to say hi to him which calmed me down a bit as I focused on how cute she was being. His brother asked me what's going off snd if I was still with my boyfriend. I said yes and his brother kept telling me to leave him and that I shouldn't be with him. Trying to warn me about my boyfriend and saying he can't be trusted and that he isn't responsible or ready to be a dad. I asked him about all the things he's said like how he's been saying that my baby isn't my boyfriends and he denied everything. After I went to my scan and saw my little baby moving around and was just happy overall that baby was okay. I sent my boyfriend the scan picture and we both decided that we would cut his brother out our lives for good to focus on our baby. For a while we didn't hear anything from his brother. Until we heard from friends that his brother was saying the same things again, that I'm sleeping around and that the baby isn't my boyfriends. He also found my dad on Facebook and tried to turn him against me and my boyfriend saying I'm a horrible person and that my boyfriend cheated on me and got someone else pregnant, which I know isn't true at all. My dad didn't take any notice of what my boyfriends brother said and was aware of the whole situation. Some time after this, my boyfriends brother also logged into all my boyfriends social media accounts, blocking family and friends and also changing his tiktok email, phone number and password. Ultimately locking him out his tiktok account. I gathered proof of everything for him and put it in a folder in case I ever needed it and then helped my boyfriend secure all his accounts. That was the last thing we heard from him until recently, a police officer came to us and said that his brother had claimed that my boyfriend was harassing him, hacking into his social media accounts and also standing outside his window? We told the police that it wasn't true at all and that we had him blocked for some time now. That it was infact the other way around and that we had proof. She said she would have a talk with him about it all. She also said there wasn't any charges at the moment either but that might change. During all this, his brother had turned his mother against us too, saying that my baby isn't my boyfriends and that I've been sleeping around. So both his brother and his mother are wanting a paternity test once baby is born. Me and my boyfriend spoke about this and agreed that we would do one, but that we won't have them around the baby as they already won't view the baby as part of their family until it's proven otherwise.

AITA for telling my boyfriend to cut off his brother? Part of me feels guilty and bad as it is his family and blood but I also don't want to be around that stress or have him around me or my baby