I (23f) do cat sitting as a side gig. My new boyfriend (25M) set me up to watch his sister's cat while she was out of town for 5 days. I met her & her cat for the first time a few days before she left so she could show me the routine, and during the visit, her cat hid the whole time. She described him as a "mean old man" but said she loved him to death anyway. I didn’t think much of it, some cats are just like that.

But when I came over to take care of him alone, he was the sweetest cat. He followed me around, curled up in my lap, gave me head bumps… he was full of love. I spent extra time over there with him because he seemed like he really wanted the extra attention. I told my boyfriend and he was surprised, saying he didn’t know why his sister got such different treatment, that she LOVES that cat and is always hugging and kissing him. and then it all made sense to me & I understood the problem

When she got back and asked how it went, I told her how sweet her cat was. She said that’s impossible, that he’s always been mean. So I told her that from what I saw, it’s not that her cat is mean… it’s just that he doesn’t really like her or the way she interacts with him & he really needed her to change how she treats him. I didn’t mean to be rude, just honest. But it did not go over well. She cried and told me to get out and said I was just saying that to hurt her feelings. But I have no reason to do that. She didn’t pay me either and I’m really annoyed about it.

Now things are really tense. My boyfriend is kinda distant and I think we might break up. I wasn’t trying to start problems, just trying to help her AND her cat. But maybe I should have kept it to myself? Or phrased it differently. Im autistic and I’m not always so good at that. But he could be a totally different cat if she just adjusted some. I don’t see the point in sugar coating things like that when it really needs to be dealt with asap

AITA?