so i (25m) dated “k” (27f) for about 1.5 years. we lived together, had joint savings, the whole domestic starter pack. i really thought we were in it for the long haul. then she went on a “girls trip” to tulum. came back a week later looking like she saw the ghost of morality. sat me down and said she “needed to be honest.”

turns out she cheated. twice. once with some guy from her yoga class she said was “like a brother,” and once with a guy she met on the beach and “connected with under the moonlight.” i moved out the next day. blocked her. went full monk mode.

anyway, fast forward a few months. i get a dm from this guy, we’ll call him zach. zach is her new boyfriend. he’s all, “hey man, hope this isn’t weird, but i know you used to date k, and i just wanted to ask if she was faithful to you? she says you were emotionally distant and kind of checked out.”

first off: lol. second: i sat with it. i didn’t respond for a few hours. but then i figured… if he’s asking, he probably already knows something’s off. so i told him the truth. i said:

“she cheated on me twice, once with someone she told me not to worry about, and once with a random on vacation. you can believe what you want, but that’s what happened. good luck.”

no insults. no bitterness. just the facts.

he read it. no reply. then she texts me:

“i can’t believe you’re still trying to ruin my life. that was so inappropriate. i thought you were better than this.”

so now i’m wondering… did i cross a line? i wasn’t trying to sabotage anything. he literally asked. i gave a calm, honest answer. but apparently, i’m the villain in her healing journey now.

aita?