I (20F) have worked in animal care and is my pursuing passion, I am unemployed currently because I’m trying to go to school and get things lined up so I can move up the ladder faster to end goal be a dog obedience trainer and border but I have worked and volunteered in veterinary work and miscellaneous other animal jobs. Long story short on that behalf, on anything animal related they always say yes without my say so and stick me with them. My sister(29, textbook narcissist and still lives at home on SSI) bro literally doesn’t do anything all day even if asked but that’s slightly besides the point. She recently found a mama and 4 kittens(around 6-8weeks) under the trailer and took them in right before I had to move back home when she was supposed to be cleaning her room and house along with my brother while I cleaned moms car and her room for the move but instead used the kittens as an excuse even when I had them, as she typically does with everything. We gave mama and one baby to a longtime family friend and for the rest we give them up to a local woman that I recommended, she essentially takes care of sick kittens preferably above 6 weeks and cats to help them find good homes. In giving them to her my sister and mother signed up for fostering 2 kittens(a couple days old) without a mom that were sick when she handed them off saying that they don’t have good chances and that she has had bad luck with them when they’re that young. (For more context and one of the leading reasons I said no, other than my sister being known to be bad with animals, is because my room was and still is genuinely the only clean room in the house and I don’t mean the rest of the house is a modest cutesy mess, it’s disgusting with maggots, etc. (and as well one of the reasons I moved out of state for a little over 2 years before I was financially ready.) They decided without me being apart of the conversation that me and my Bf (that has pet hair allergies with already 5 pets in the home totaling to 12 animals in a tiny unkept trailer) would switch off with my sister when sleep was needed(she got night shifts because she sleeps during the day anyway) the female kitten ended up passing in her room at 3am and she got really controlling after that. This was before one of the babies passed as well but only got worse, she never let me speak when handing them over to say what was going on with them or my concerns like firm to liquid stool and sneezing but instead the whole time she was just trying to ego check me or try to get me to say something wrong, she made a book of all of the things she wanted to keep track of, saying that our mom was the one that instilled it and was firm on it(turns out mom had nothing to do with the book.) I rolled my eyes and filled the book out with no rebuttal then my mom got him the next day because we had to drive over an hour to get showers and do laundry at a truck stop because we don’t have ✨thy hot water luxuries✨ and flat out refused to do the book, stating “my sister was acting like a control freak and was not open minded to his specific needs and was only paying attention to tik toks advise.” (Which everyone involved agreed with) After that my sister decided she was going to refuse to take care of him anymore even tho she was the one that gladly signed up for them so I ended up taking full responsibility for him all night and all day with 4hrs of broken sleep because he had to be fed 6ml and stimulated to relieve himself every 2hr. Mom yet again without me being apart of the conversation, gave him away to our family friend that took the other two. Meanwhile my sister is mocking me, saying that I couldn’t do it and picking verbal and physical fights,(I’m 145ish pounds btw while she’s 600 sum pounds) as well as telling my brother that she wants to kill the kitten now. It’s a lot for one person to solely take care of him so me and my mom’s friend agreed to switching off every 3 days until he ended up passing at 3 weeks old at her house on the 2nd day because he got sick again(highly probable it was our house) and now that they are all gone she’s complaining about my brothers kitten not getting what she needs and is insisting on being the second caregiver, complaining to “socialize” her, even tho he explicitly said he wants our sister to have nothing to do with her and that he wanted me to watch her while he’s at work when I have the free time(I have an extremely cuddly cat that stays in my room and she follows me everywhere and a dog that likes to guard me) but she goes into his room and takes her while his kitten(normally quiet, playful and chill) meows her head off in my sisters room