So I'm (29F) and my fiance (31M) and we have been together for 4 years. We are planning our wedding for later this year which has been going great except for one person. His best friend kyle.

kyle is one of those dudes who peaked in high school and is so insufferable. He is always making unnecessary jokes that seem like insults tbh. But my fiance says he’s just goofy and immature and so I’ve tried to keep my peace.

Anyway my birthday was two weeks ago. Nothing big happened just a dinner at a nice restaurant with close friends and family. Near the end of it someone mentioned the wedding and how everything was going and my fiance answered and said we were writing our own vows. I said I was nervous but excited.

Then kyle said loudly. I think everyone present in the restaurant heard it that's how loud he was “Just don’t cry halfway through your vows like you did during your breakup remember that?" The table went dead silent.

In the moment I laughed it off cause i didn't want to create a scene there. But I was humiliated. My dad was present there and my fiance was aware of that breakup it was abusive and traumatic. I later told him how hurt I was and he said kyle was just being kyle and you know how he is babe.

So I sat on it for a few days even though i was hurt. But then finally I told him I don’t want kyle at the wedding. Not at the rehearsal. Not giving a speech Nothing. Nowhere I just don't want him there.

Now my fiance is saying I’m overreacting. That kyle was just trying to be funny and kicking him off the list would destroy our 15years of friendship.

But honestly If kyle can not respect me then why should I allow him to stand next to the man I’m marrying.

So AITA for refusing to have kyle at the wedding after all this?