Me (26f) and my husband (33m) have been married for almost 6 years, and he really wants kids. We aren’t in a good enough financial position to have kids. We both work, and I make a lot more money than him. I make around $104,420 a year and he makes less than 12k. He’s starting a business (I say “starting” but he’s been doing that for 3 years) and that’s definitely not making enough money to compensate for all the money it’s costing us.

Lately he’s been talking kids a lot more, saying it’s “now or never” and he’s getting older so soon we’ll run out of time. I get where he’s coming from, but kids are an expensive commitment that we can’t afford. I tried explaining to him that I also want kids, but they just cost so much money. You have to buy toys, a crib, tons of clothes since they grow so fast, food, bottles, etc. Plus the cost of prenatal care. But he just doesn’t listen. It’s like trying to explain it to a child.

We’ve had this conversation about 30 times and he just keeps repeating himself. Yesterday I finally snapped. I told him at dinner that maybe if he got a real job instead of waiting years for this business to start up that we’d be able to have kids, I work my ass off everyday to make sure he has a roof over his head and he doesn’t do shit.

He got pissed off and stormed out of the house. He’s staying in a hotel (which he can’t afford) and I feel kinda bad.

I would also like to point out that I didn’t marry a bum with no job. When we got married he was making more than me and he just quit his job to start his stupid business. And I know I’m calling it stupid now, but in the beginning I did really support him doing this, but it’s gone on too long.

AITA?