I (29F) am supposed to marry my fiancé (31M) in 6 days. We've been together for 7 freaking years. I supported him through his college — working, putting off my own dreams because, y'know, “teamwork.

We always talked about being equals. A power couple. He even said once, drunk off his own fake feminism, that he "loved strong women." Turns out he meant “strong enough to carry his mother on my back.”

We recently bought a house together. I paid HALF the down payment, drained my entire savings, sold my jewelry, skipped vacations, all that grind culture bullshit. He promised it would be OURS. 50/50.

Until yesterday.

I get a call from the loan guy asking about a “change” to the paperwork. My stomach drops. Turns out:

My fiancé tried to quietly put ONLY his name and his mother's name on the house deed. NOT mine.

When I confronted him (thinking maybe it was a mistake because surely no one could be this stupid??), he literally said, and I quote:

"You’re not family until you’re my wife. My mom deserves security first. You’ll earn your place after marriage."

Earn my place? Honey, I already bought my place and paid for the damn bricks!

AND THEN. His mother (62F) who is fully healthy, does yoga, travels, and has apparently already picked out the master bedroom for herself.

She also wants to convert my future home office into her "meditation room" and rent out the guest rooms on Airbnb "for extra cash".

Without asking me. Without even telling me. As if I’m some intern squatting in their family home.

When I told him, “I didn’t sign up to be an unpaid housekeeper, landlord, and emotional support animal,” he said:

"You women are so quick to destroy families. No wonder marriages don’t last anymore."

Meanwhile his sister (34F, unemployed, lives rent-free in his parents' basement) is texting me gems like:

“You're just a gold-digger who got lucky."

"Women these days don’t know how to be wives. You’re too modern."

Modern?

I’m sitting here looking at my unworn wedding dress and wondering if I’m the crazy one for thinking marriage should start with respect, not submission.

He keeps saying I'm overreacting and threatening to "ruin his life" over "one small misunderstanding."

I haven’t shown up to the final dress fitting. I’m seriously thinking of canceling everything.

Am I the asshole for refusing to “earn my place” in a house I paid for?

ETA: Didn't expect the overwhelming amount of comments. Thank you all.

Yes, he didn't change within a short period of time, it started with him following 'Andrew Tate' back in 2023. He was obsessed with him, and back then I talked him out of it. Or so do I think.

He changed very recently, until this happened.

ETA2: JFC!!! THIS BLEW UP SO FAST, I DONT KNOW WHICH COMMENT TO READ FIRST.

YES, I AM CANCELLING EVERYTHING. I HAVE CONTACTED A LAWYER, AND STARTING FROM THERE. THANK YOU ALL FOR GIVING ME A PUSH! FEELS LIKE I CAN DO THIS.

SORRY CANT REPLY TO EVERYONE SO FAST, SO JUST UPDATING HERE...