I (28M) have been with my fiancee (29F) for 3 years, engaged for 1. Our wedding is in 6 months. We’ve had a great relationship, she’s kind and supportive. Even so, I feel like I’ve been quietly struggling with my identity for most of my life. I thought getting married and settling down might “fix” that feeling, but the more I was around her, wearing her clothes privately (with her permission ofc haha), the more I felt comfortable. after realizing this wasn’t going away, I’ve been researching, going to therapy, and ultimately I’ve decided to schedule an appointment in July to begin medically transitioning (MtF).

I haven’t told her yet. I’m really scared of breaking her heart or ruining the life we planned. I don’t want to be unfair, but I also don’t want to keep living in a body i'm insecure in. Am I bad person for wanting to transition so close to our wedding?