So I (24F) am freaking out rn and need some perspective. I'm a nurse, and my grandma (76F) was recently diagnosed with stage 2 kidney disease. The doctor prescribed medication and dietary changes, but she's refusing everything in favor of traditional remedies from our home country.

I love my grandma, but these "cures" are just random herbs, special teas, and weird rituals that have zero scientific backing. Her condition is getting worse, and I'm terrified we're going to lose her because she won't take actual medicine.

Yesterday, my bf (who's in med school) and I tried to stage an intervention. We came with research papers, simplified medical explanations, everything. My bf even offered to find a doctor from our cultural background who could explain things better.

It was a disaster. grandma accused me of abandoning our heritage and "becoming too American." my mom just sat there quietly, then later told me I was disrespecting an elder and should be ashamed. the entire family is now divided, with aunts and uncles blowing up my phone calling me everything from "colonized mind" to "ungrateful granddaughter."

My bf thinks I should call adult protective services, but that feels extreme and would destroy my family. I've tried compromising (take the meds AND do the traditional stuff), but grandma sees it as an insult to her ancestors.

I'm just trying to save her life using my medical knowledge, but my family acts like I'm committing cultural treason. AITA for trying to force Western medicine on my traditional grandmother?