I (F27) and my boyfriend (M41 divorcee) met three years ago at get together my friend threw. We weren’t so friendly towards each other… it was more like a respect-based relationship due to the fact that I’d never dated anyone much older than me before. Gradually we became friends and began dating after a year. It was all good until I began to notice some things late last year. I would send him a series of chats and he would pick only one to reply to, abandoning the other ones. Initially, I overlooked it but as time went on, I began to get pissed because I would never do that to him. I told him about it a thousand times and he just laughed it off. I am the kind of person whose love language is communication and sometimes physical touch (not necessarily s£x). He stopped kissing me and has never given me any valid reason why… All I get from time to time are just pecks on my forehead. Even when we’re being intimate, he avoids my mouth. I am a confident lady and I can confidently say I am neat and don't have any case of a foul odour emanating from my talk-hole. I asked him if I did, and he said no. Now, a few days ago, he took a trip to see his friends. Before he left the house, he promised to call me when he got there… I waited for hours without getting any calls and I was getting worried. I decided to call him myself. He answered the phone and said his friends came to see him and he forgot to call me. I didn't make a big deal out of it but I felt bad. I felt a little bit unimportant, like his friends matter more than I do. I don't have a problem with that. Theyve known him longer than me and I understand. Unlike me… I don't have friends, I am very reserved and he is kinda the only person I can have fun with, asides my family. After the incident, he shut me out for two days again and I kept trying to reach him but he wasn't answering his phone or replying his chats. He finally replied the evening of the second day. He said his phone’s screen went bad and he couldn't use it. But I knew instantly that he was lying. He has another phone he would have simply used to reach me and knowing the kind of phone freak he is, it is impossible for me to believe that he would stay for two days without a means of communication or access to the internet. I told him he was lying. He apologised the next day and said he passed out from too much alcohol and couldn't call. I tried to understand and convince myself because I had warned him severally not to drink to a stupor. He doesn't do it at home. I then sent him a message asking him to come home soon and lets go out on a date since he hasn't taken me to any since I agreed to be his girlfriend. He skipped the message as usual and replied to just a random one. I still drew his attention back to it and he brushed it off. It really pissed me off and I had to call his attention back to it. I asked him if I've ever asked for anything much from him and why he treats me like I don't matter or like I don't deserve him, like thrash. He concluded that I was still mad at the fact that he got drunk but I wasn't and I tried to make him see that. He got angry and said I always like to make everything about me. He went on to say how I like to build a mountain out of a molehill or whatever… I told him that I was just trying to say he might love me but he's doing it all wrong. I feel neglected. What should I do?