I (18F) am going to Japan this upcoming Friday. Today is Saturday, meaning I have just under a week to pack my suitcase. I have already made all other preparations for this trip, including purchasing an international phone plan and notifying my bank. I did this all on my own because I paid for the trip in it's entirety and wanted to prove to my parents that I was responsible enough to handle myself accordingly.

My mother, we can call her Karen, stormed into my room demanding that I pack my suitcase today (I live at home with my parents and will be moving out in the fall to start college). I told her that I had plans to do my laundry on this upcoming Tuesday, mainly because I have clothes that I want to wear to school that I also want to bring on the trip with me. If I pack everything now, then I can't bring those specific clothes with me on my trip because I'd have to re-pack my entire suitcase (I have to be very meticulous about my items in regards to space, as I am a chronic over-packer). My parents also have this weird rule that once a suitcase is packed, you can't pack anything else in it, and they're putting my suitcase in my dad's car once it is finalized. My laundry basket is also only halfway full, and I typically wait until it is all the way full to wash clothes (it'll be full after school on Tuesday). I also intend to specifically wear clothes I won't be bringing with me on Wednesday and Thursday, but I don't have a full week's worth of outfits that don't have clothes I'd be taking with me (i.e. bras/underwear/socks/pants). I have nothing after school on Tuesday, so I am packing my suitcase that night, meaning I will do laundry on that day.

Karen took this refusal as a personal attack and started to accuse me of never listening to anything she ever tells me to do. She basically called me a "pig" that lives in a "pigsty" and told me I am disgusting for letting my room get dirty (there were clothes on my spare twin bed and products I needed to put away on my vanity that I was planning on using tonight). I asked her nicely to leave my room multiple times but she kept pushing her way past me and belittling me for my "dirtiness" and "laziness." She also threatened to not let me go to New York with my best friend tomorrow to see a show for my birthday. My dad broke the "argument" up by calling her downstairs and getting into his own argument with her. I knew that I had to listen to her and clean up so that she could stop yelling, so I changed my sheets and threw them into the washer with my towels. Karen saw this and started screaming at me again, saying that I was deliberately defying her because I have "always hated her" and never "appreciate what [she] does for [me]." I reminded her that I have nothing going on after school Tuesday and that I intended on wearing clothes for the trip to school this week. She stormed out of the house at this, screaming insults on her way out.

I plan on apologizing when she gets home, but I refuse to a. waste water and time doing laundry that I am just going to do again on Tuesday and b. not bring specific items with me because they're dirty. AITA??