Hello all!

I'm seeking insight on the tricky living situation I'm in atm. I (23f) live with my friend (23f) who would describe herself as my bff, but that's a label I am uncomfortable about because I don't feel the same towards since moving in. I would describe myself as a sensitive and calm person who appreciates a clean and orderly home and those are qualities that we both at first felt that we shared.

Fast forward 1,5 years I am burnt out from living with her because of various reasons to which I would love to get second opinion on as it feels like I'm going crazy.

1. She has a cat who is very calm BUT our house contantly smells like cat feces or piss which is making me extremely anxious because I am very sensitive to smell. She is almost daily out of the house for 6-8 hours and cleans the litter once a day, but I have never seen her wash the actual litter and when I have been given the responsibility of taking care of her pet I've noticed that the bottom of the litter is full of clumped up pee that she does not clean up. This and asking her to move the litter trash bin to our balcony has been a reason for a lot conflict that has not been really addressed on her part even though I have tried to ask her politely to be more mindful of the smell in our house because of my sensory issues. Another thing relating to her cat is the issue of cat hair being everywhere constantly (kitchen, cutlery, every single thing) that I tried to clean the best I could, but she did not feel that is something needs to be done as well as having the litter sand scatter troughout the house (even to my bedroom) which has triggered me a lot.
2. Responsibility regarding the upkeep and decoration has all been put to my shoulders. My roommate seems to be expecting me to initiate all the plans regarding who cleans, when to restock, taking care of all contracts (electricity, internet) which is very exhausting and I've tried to express I want SHARE the burden but that ends up in nothing happening and the cycle repeats. This and the problem of having different standards of cleanliness which I have made an effort to talk about, but she started to point out that she feels like I'm nagging if I point out that there's tomato sauce all over the stove or whipped cream splashed on my herbs and condiments.
3. Social aspect of our friendship has been a drama full of twists and turns. My friend expressed when we moved in together during a fight she started regarding boots I bought from our friend (this is ridiculous right..) that she feels inferior to me and feels like I in a way take everything from her and after this I have realised that she has codependent tendencies towards me as well being very blind to me as person but sees me as this very idealised figure which has made me question is it healthy to be a friend to her or live with her.

This is pretty much the rough version of the whole situation and I still feel like I'm maybe too sensitive, or am I? I have been living at my partners home for most of the time now but I don't thinks it's fair to her. Am I wrong for wanting to just move out and not try to figure out the situation?