(Posting for my sister since she doesn't know how reddit works )

So my boyfriend cheated on me twice we’re working on it. I want to know if im the Ahole more so for denying baby shower photos) I don’t want comments telling me to leave or that he’ll do it again; I’m committed to counseling, couples counseling, etc. You get the point.

He cheated, whatever we’re working on itbut we’re having our baby-shower pictures and I don’t want any photos with him. I’m not smiling in pictures with him. I told him, and he said it hurt his feelings. I told him I don’t care: he can take pictures with his child from someone else, and me and our daughter will take pictures separately. I also told him I won’t post any pictures of him on my social media to avoid embarrassment if one or three of us show up.

He told me I’m alienating his daughter (from a previous relationship) and him by keeping them out. I told him we’re repairing our relationship but I’m not going to have you guys in all my pictures. I don’t want most of you in the pictures if we don’t work out. He was so taken aback by this…I told him I don’t care this is where I stand.

It got back to some family who know what’s going on, and they said they understand where I’m coming from but that excluding the half-sibling from pictures with my belly is wrong. I was called an asshole by some because she’ll have zero memories.

When my boyfriend and I decided to try to repair our relationship, I told him I’m stepping back from helping him with his child. He was upset but understood; he was upset because he didn’t know how to explain it to his seven-year-old. I wanted to back off because things have been rocky and I went from having this girl 24/7 to never—it’s nothing against her; I love having her around but I can’t take the responsibility right now. We have our daughter and our son on the way, and he’s saying he’s going to try to slip in here or there for a photo of us. I said, cool—I'm not smiling or acting like I’m happy with you at the moment. I’ve already taken a few maternity photos with him even though I didn’t want to, and I smiled and looked like a fairy tale—you’d never know the darkness we were going through—but I don’t want my pictures ruined if we don’t work out. I don’t think it’s bad to just have pictures of everyone there; if he and I don’t make it, the album will still be filled with wonderful people and smiles. I really don’t think I’m the asshole. He knows I’m going through a lot; I’ve communicated all this to him and he said he completely understood. But now that our baby shower is next Tuesday, he’s saying that I’m an asshole and thought I’d change my mind.