My ex (27M) had been single for around 3 years before he met me (23F). We’re colleagues, but we never met in person because we live on opposite sides of the world. We used to chat daily and occasionally video call.

A few weeks ago, I found out a few things: - He’s still following his ex. - He kept his ex’s nudes and said he can’t delete them because “it’s like a third-grade medal.” - I saw comments he left on her posts like “I love you so much” and “You’re so beautiful.”

When I brought these up to him, he got mad and said I was just creating problems. It felt like I was walking on eggshells, and since he kept dismissing my feelings, I started to feel resentful. He told me he still follows his ex—who cheated on him—because he wants to see her downfall. He also refused to delete her nudes and even warned me that if we ever meet in person, he’ll leave me if he catches me checking his phone or PC.

He also said he finds liking IG stories or posts “cringe” and that he’s not a 10-year-old to care about Instagram. For context, I honestly didn’t care that he liked or commented on his ex’s posts—I just wanted the same kind of support and attention from him.

I only found out about his ex because during a call, he randomly mentioned that he’s “pulling all the hot girls” and told me I should see his ex now.

But when he wanted something from me—like asking for nudes—even though I found it shallow and uncomfortable, I still did it because I loved him and wanted to understand him.

Recently, he broke up with me, saying I was overthinking everything and that he wants a peaceful life. Is it my fault that we didn’t work out because I asked about these things?