My dad is deaf and recently got out of jail after 7 years because of SA another elderly person. He also has a charge of SA of a child from 30 years ago. When he got out, he moved in with my grandpa and that was that. I am not involved in his life in anyway outside of random phone calls once in awhile.

My grandpa died, and now my dad’s housing situation is shaky. The house will probably be sold to cover owed taxes but no idea when that’ll happen. So now I’m getting daily phone calls where my dad is now interested in moving to the town I live in and is expecting that I will become his support system. I have a kid and it’s specific in the court order that he is not to have contact with persons under 17. Also, we just have never been close due to the fact he wasn’t in my life growing up.

My husband wants me to tell him not to move here as the cost of living is much higher along with to stop helping him. I feel guilty knowing he is deaf and has a hard time navigating systems and is easily taken advantage of. However, my husband is warning me that he will leave if my dad begins to integrate his life with ours. I’m not comfortable either with him moving to our city, nor willing to have to be the sole person he reaches out to for support when he gets that with his church in his current town.