Context: I live alone in a 1-bedroom apartment with 3 cats. My younger sister is currently staying with me for her vacation. Usually, when my mom brings my sister here, it’s just the two of them—then my mom heads back to the province the next day.

My mom has a husband who’s a foreigner. She says he’s nice, but I don’t really want to talk to him because he always acts like his opinions are the only ones that matter. It annoys me because I feel like my mom just took in a huge burden with him. (For 5 years, they were just waiting for his money to arrive while he basically did nothing. My mom was the one working, and he didn’t even help around the house.)

Anyway, I just found out today that during this trip with my mom and sister to my apartment, her husband came along too. I’m so pissed because I only found out from my sister. My mom just messaged me when they were already in the car—and he was with them.

I wouldn’t have minded so much if she had just told me, but I’m really angry that she didn’t. I’m not comfortable sharing my space with him. I don’t like him that much. And while I respect him as my mom’s husband, I don’t want to fake friendliness or force myself to talk to him—especially right now when I’m not in the mental state to do so.

I also kind of feel like now that they’re receiving monthly money (probably from him), they’re hiding it from me—when before, they used to borrow money from me just to eat, and I never asked them to pay it back. Now that they’re okay financially, they’re suddenly secretive? I’ve never asked them for anything in return, I had my own money.

So… AITA for feeling like a jerk because “she’s still my mom” and I should respect her—but I’m so annoyed that she brought her husband without even telling me? It feels like I invited her, and she just brought someone else without asking. That’s how I feel.

And yeah, I kind of feel like an asshole because after this, I really don’t want to talk to her for a while. Plus, I don’t want to even acknowledge her husband.

Sorry if this came out messy—I’m really pissed. My mom kind of pulled a main character move, and I feel like I’m going crazy from how inconsiderate it was.