I (15F) was best friends with a girl—let's call her Emily—since the start of 2023. Things were fine until around June 2023, when she got her first boyfriend. After that, she basically stopped spending time with me. She’d only talk to me when he wasn’t around, so I started sitting with other friends.

We made up at the start of 2024, and she said she hadn’t noticed she was pushing me away. But I overheard her once say to someone else that she purposely did inappropriate stuff with her boyfriend to make me go away. I let it go at the time.

Later that year, around June, she started hanging out with another friend—let’s call her Sophie—who always sped up while walking or didn’t make room for me, so I kept getting left behind. Eventually, I stopped hanging out with them. When Emily noticed, she asked if I still wanted to be friends. I explained how I felt, and she admitted she didn’t even like Sophie and told me Sophie's secrets, so we agreed to keep distance from her.

Then in November, I told Emily I had a crush on a guy—we’ll call him Lucas. A week later, she said she liked him too but would stay away out of respect. Not long after, I saw Lucas’s best friend's name on her Snapchat labeled as “bestiewestie.” I jokingly said, “I thought I was your best friend,” and she replied, “Guy best friends are different to girl best friends.”

I later convinced her to end an online relationship she was in at the same time, because it wasn’t fair to him and that it wasn't loyal. Afterward, she laughed it off and said it was just “microcheating,” even joking about how upset he’d be. At her birthday party, she and Lucas were clearly close—sitting on the bed, him giving her head scratches, her falling asleep next to him, etc. That’s when I decided to distance myself again. I was expecting an apology, or at least for her to recognize how it made me feel.

People noticed we weren’t close anymore and asked what happened. I told them the truth. She found out and sent me a long message, accusing me of making up that I liked Lucas first and claiming she only didn’t admit her feelings sooner because she was in a relationship (which didn’t make it better). She also blamed me for going silent every time she hurt me, even though I felt like my boundaries and feelings were clearly being ignored.

Even then, I apologized to her in hopes of fixing things. About a month ago, I told her I felt left out because she spent most of her time with her boyfriend (Lucas’s best friend). She agreed and said she was giving him too much attention. I admitted I was scared to be honest with her because she always got defensive. We came to an agreement… but nothing changed. She kept prioritizing her boyfriend over me.

Most recently, an anonymous TikTok account from someone in our friend group started posting rumors about me. I showed Emily proof, and her only response was, “Ok, report it then.” I asked if that was all, and she just said, “This is unnecessary drama.” I asked if she was still going to be friends with the person who made the account, and she said, “Yup.” Then she randomly unfriended me on Snapchat.

My other friends posted a video defending me, and Emily ended up defending the one who attacked me. She sent another friendship-ending message saying she never wanted to be friends again because she was “tired” of me.

Now she’s still hanging out with people she previously talked badly about. So AITA?