My mom has watched my son for about 3 years now. As much as we are very appreciative about that it has impacted our relationship. Since my mom watches him she is overly involved when my husband and I are around she continues to act as if she is in control, hovering our son, which then creates frustration among my husband, and myself included. For example, if he cries and I have him she tries to take him out of my arms etc. We have tried to set boundaries , such as when we are there we don't need you to hover , let us be the parents. She sometimes will try to do things with him that we have already planned to do with him as something special to experience. Since this has gone on for a while, my husband snapped at the last instance where she was coming to watch our son run a race, tried to reach over me to get him out of the car, and grabbed his hand and was running towards the race area, something we wanted to do with him. Husband asked her to stop and give us our child and she stormed off and left. After this situation, she is insisting she feels disrespected , does not need husband around her, she refuses to watch our child any longer leaving us with no child care and will not attending birthday parties or any events for our child etc. I know this is her choice but I'm finding it very abrupt and hurtful , even though my boundaries were crossed my child will be affected with her not being rational and understanding she is a grandparent and needs to give space when needed. She says I'm choosing my husbands side but really I just wanted her to back up and give us room to parent our child. A family member said I should be thanking her for watching our son and not be insulted she was just trying to help out. AITA