So my younger brother is planning to get married to his fiancée, who he's dated for 3+ years. He's been married once before and that didn't work out so he got divorced. He barely took time off between his divorce and dating again, which I get. We're all lonely. So about 2 years into the dating relationship, he told me his then-girlfriend began pressuring him for marriage and he kept saying he wasn't sure.

Another year goes by and she hasn't let up, telling him he's wasting her time if he doesn't marry her. (While of course me thinking, well girl then leave. He's not holding a gun to your head...) But they've both invested time and must see something in each other to stay. Yet, there are some jealousy and insecurity issues, he shares. They don't agree on a lot of big things like kids and religion. They take a trip and come back engaged. He says he hopes he's making the right decision. 😬

Now, he tells me she's planning a courthouse wedding and doesn't want to invite any family/friends inside the courtroom but only wants family to wait outside the courthouse for 15 minutes of photos. Nothing planned after the ceremony to celebrate and my brother says they'll have a larger celebration down the road. But his fiancée is insistent that we're there for photos and support. My husband doesn't want to travel an hour away (that's the distance for us) just for 15 minutes worth of photos at a ceremony we didn't attend. I agree.

Thoughts? AITA for skipping out on photos at my brother's 2nd marriage ceremony that I can't even be a part of?