I’m so confused I don’t even know how to word the title .. My boyfriend is currently PISSED at me, giving me the disappointed silent treatment. Multiple reasons.

Context : he is from a different country and moved to mine so we can be together. He doesn’t speak the language too much, but in my city the majority of people speak English. I work a highly demanding job in an office with clients. He works from home in a job that gives him a few hours of work a day max, rest of the time he chills. He does the majority of household chores - laundry, cleaning. I come home from work around 6-7 when I cook, we eat. He goes to bed at 10 and I usually have like 1-2 hours to chill and then go to bed too.

So what happened - this week has been crazy at work and I have 10x the work I usually do. This week we also had to make 2 appointments - for the vet for our dog and for a restaurant for Friday. Since the beginning of the week he has been instructing me to call, but I didn’t manage during the day because it was too busy. He kept asking and getting annoyed when I said I hadn’t, and in the end I got annoyed too and told him he could do it too. He explained that 1. He had an online meeting starting in 5 mins (15 min call) and 2. They wouldn’t understand him. Mind you, we are talking about restaurants that usually speak English and we specifically chose a vet that speaks English too.

On my way home from work I made the call to the vet. I got home but I only had 20 mins to refresh myself because I was going to the theatre with a friend. He first got annoyed that he will have to cook for himself. I had bought him a frozen pizza. He then, on my way out, instructed me to call the restaurant on my way there as he sat to watch TV. I didn’t because I was running super late. After the theatre was over and me and my friend sat for drinks the first thing I see on my phone is a message ‘did you call’. I said no, and then he wrote me a passive aggressive thumbs up message along with something along the lines of ‘happy I saw you for 5 mins today.’

Cocktails with my friend ran a little late and I was on my way home around 1 am. My phone was in my pocket and apparently he had woken up and texted me to check on me. I didn’t answer so he called 3 times but I didn’t hear my phone. I saw it like 10 mins later and called back, upon which he called me an idiot - for not replying, staying out too late on a work day, etc.

This morning I wake up to ‘good morning. did you make a reservation’. I got annoyed, said I didn’t have the time. He called me an idiot again, then said he doesn’t want to go anymore and I shouldn’t make one. And then silent treatment.

Now fresh in the morning he came to me to ask that I call my dad to bring him dog nail clippers. We live 5 mins away from my parents and there is someone at home so he could arrange to take them or bring the dog to clip her nails but NO - I have to call and he doesn’t understand why I’m making it difficult for him.

As I’m writing this and going to work he called me - apparently as I was coming out the door didn’t close properly and the puppy went out in the corridor. He came out of the bathroom, saw the door open and the dog not there and called me to tell me it’s my fault and I’m an idiot AGAIN. He hung the phone on me and started walking back to help find her (she couldn’t be anywhere but somewhere along the floors). I’m almost there and called him again, he said she was sitting in front of the door and told me to ‘just leave’.

Am I seriously the asshole here 🤡 I don’t think I am but like ?? Help me out.