Am I the AH?

My partner and I have been together for over a year, and we were childhood friends before dating. Lately, I’ve started feeling like he treated me better as a friend than he does as a partner.

I’ve always made an effort to make him feel special on his birthday. Last year, we were on a trip that happened to land on his birthday, so I planned a full day of activities, arranged breakfast, and made reservations for both lunch and dinner. I really tried to make it memorable for him.

For my birthday last year, he gave me a necklace — a very beautiful one — but he gave it to me two months after my actual birthday. As thoughtful as the gift was, it still hurt that he didn’t plan to give it to me on the actual day.

On top of that, I’ve had to buy my own flowers for Valentine’s Day and my birthday both last year and this year. And to make things worse, I found out he had been cheating on me with prostitutes via Snapchat — I discovered this just a day after my birthday last year.

This year, I wasn’t expecting much, but he kept hyping up my birthday, telling me I had no idea what he had in store. My birthday was yesterday. All he ended up doing was making a Facebook post on my page — using a bunch of photos I’ve repeatedly asked him not to share.

At the end of the day, he told me he had no service at work and couldn’t order me flowers. Then he said if I really wanted them, he’d order them for today — but I declined and bought myself some this morning. If he really wanted to, he would’ve made it happen, right?

Last year, I ordered him flowers a few days in advance to make sure he’d receive them on his actual birthday. I’ve even had past boyfriends send flowers to my workplace or have them waiting for me at home — just little gestures that showed they cared.

I just feel like I go out of my way to make him feel special, and he doesn’t do the same for me. Will he ever put in the effort? Or am I just being stupid for staying?