WARNING: Talks of stuff like suicide

Had an arguement with my girlfriend today. Friend messages us saying she is leaving school for the day because her mom just called her and told her that her cousin just died (figured out it was suicide a few hours later) she has been obvisouly sad but has said some questionable things like #forever16 and stuff like that. As backstory, my girlfriend is very touchy when it comes to this topic as her friend committed suicide a few years ago. Anyways, our main gc is on discord. Our friend talked about it a bit in her channel in our gc about it but my girlfriend has made rules staying to add a spoiler to possibly triggering things like this topic. Our friend in the past has on multiple occasions not put spoilers on stuff like this and again today did not. My girlfriend was upset which I understood as it is a troubling topic to her and it’s not hard to just type /spoiler and then write a message. This is where the problem comes in.

My girlfriend told me how not only it had annoyed her that our friend wouldn’t use a spoiler for stuff like this and has multiple times in the past been asked to when it comes to unsettling topics, Then, she said she was upset for how our friend was talking about their cousin. She said it felt disrespectful to say things like #forever16 and stuff like that and said while our friend seems sad, she also seems like she is just trying to get attention. I did not say anything. I just tried my best to stay neutral. I know people grieve differently and I wasn’t sure how i felt about what our friend was saying. For example, my grandma was making jokes and stuff about her mom just days after her passing and to her, dark humor helped lighten the mood. People grieve differently so I just stayed quiet.She was mad at me because of this.

Later on, we’ve argued now over text. She is mad because i didn’t side with her. She said i should always 100% after her back as we are each others number 1’s even if she sounds crazy. I told her while i didn’t disagree with her, I feel like this is not an area where I should speak my mind as i’ve never felt the feelings either her or our friend have/are going through. This would be best for me to stay quiet. She then said she was disappointed in me because i should side with her and she has experience in this. I don’t know what to say or do. I just tried my best to stay out of this and respect both sides and now she is pissed at me. I don’t know if i’m wrong but now I feel awful