I (40F) am a morning person (I wake up at 5:30am daily, without an alarm). My husband (42M) is a night owl and wakes up around 10:30 on the weekend and about ten minutes before his workday starts the rest of the week (after hitting the snooze once every 7 minutes for 45).

Even at that late hour, when he wakes up he's a grumpy mess. He can't even walk straight. We recently got kayaks and he wants to go with me in the morning.

The thing is, part of the reason I wake up early is so I can deal with him when he gets up. He isn't a bad guy he's just grumpy and annoying before 9am: he constantly clears his throat and yawns loudly, he communicates in grunts, walks around giving everything a nasty look, and has no control of his tone.

He has asked me to start turning on the light in the bedroom when I get up and "be nice to him". I turned on the light the past few days and he just rolled over. The last two nights, he has stayed up past midnight playing a video game. I already make him coffee and breakfast every weekday and I frankly don't want to coo him awake like I'm his mom when when he can't even go to bed earlier just so he can maybe go kayak with me once a week in the morning on Sunday.

As is, I take the morning time to bathe, do my hair, check socials, do some cleaning, watch the sunrise, think about my outfit for the day, make us coffee, figure out breakfast and make a to do list. I mentioned taking the kayak out in the morning a couple times a week because I thought it would be a nice little treat for me. I had no idea he would want to come with.