What attracted me to my husband when we met 5 years ago was that he was just like me. Someone who prioritizes working out. The mindset and lifestyle. We had a long distance relationship for 3 long years because our life situations at the time (mainly his). We did not meet online btw.

What I looked forward to the most when we moved in together and got married was finally having a shared lifestyle. I felt blessed because I never thought I’d find “the one” and be married.

About 2 weeks after living together, he stopped working out. Blamed stress/depression etc. I tried to encourage him that it would help. I tried to do my job as a partner to not watch him fall off and do nothing about it.

After 6-8 months I couldn’t stand it anymore. Him laying around watching tv while I go to the gym, park, or workout at home. Like is this a joke. I waited all years for this. So I started to not be nice about it and I called him a loser (this was MY home he moved into, btw).

He broke down in tears and said he’s just stressed out. I felt bad. I backed off about it.

It’s been almost 2 years now and I can’t take it anymore. I don’t ask him for anything and he can’t do ONE thing for me sometimes??? After all the hoops I jumped through for him. I feel like I’m asking the bare minimum to workout together. I have been waiting FOR FIVE YEARS!!

Other info: He works 35-40 hours a week (not physical labor)

TEXTS FROM THIS MORNING:

Me- Are we ever going to workout together?

Him- IM NOT WORKING OUT. That's not a priority of mine. I don't care I'm not going to feel bad. I'm trying to get a car and that's all l'm worried about right now not working out

Me- What does getting a car have to do with working out

Him- IM NOT WORKING OUT. Period. I don't need to explain anything to anyone. If that's unacceptable for then move on I don't care anymore

Me- Yeah, you do need to explain because I married you and now I’ve been stuck grieving a life that never happened to the point for the first time in my life I now struggle to workout because it’s so depressing. I only have been working out once a week for the last few months because I’m so devastated it’s depressing being at the gym and I avoid feeling it

Him- Leave I don’t care