Me and my partner have this group of friends for a while now. They are his friends but I guess now they're mine too. They have a son and a beautiful apartment but they are smokers. There house is the "party" house, all there friends go there. When we go to there house there's atleast MINIMUM 2/3 of there own friends. Who are always smokers too. When I became pregnant, I stopped going to there house regularly. I went a few times and they promised to smoke outdoors and told their friends to do the same but I could tell it was such an effort for them. A few times there friends who aren't my friends would forget and smoke indoors so I immediately left. A few times I did stay and inhaled so much smoke which made me so paro during my pregnancy. But the girl has a son of her own and she was in a smokers home every day so they just don't relate to me.

Now my son is 18 months and I've never appeared in there house ever since I was pregnant. They always invite us to there home but I simply say I don't want my son in a smokers home. They say they'll smoke outside but the thing is they are HEAVY smokers so I know they've already smoked all night and probably all morning of the day. So second hand smoke will always be lingering.

They've seen my son a few times as we planned some outdoor activity's. But there house was always the motive and there upset i refuse to take my son there despite them telling me they won't smoke in front of him. My partner doesn't agree with me and he's very old school. He says it's embarrassing and I'm being stupid because they won't smoke near my son. He says the whole second hand smoke is crazy because it's only once in a while. Not everyday. He grew up with his dad smoking indoors so he just doesn't understand. He's also a smoker but he smokes outdoors only.

AITA???

Ps. We don't have our own home. We live with family so we can't invite friends over.