My partner said something to me that was very hurtful. She acknowledged that it was a hurtful thing to say but said that she had said it to past partners and they never had the reaction I had, so she could not have known it was that hurtful. I felt like she was deflecting accountability and needed support/validation/confirmation that my reaction to the statement wasn't unreasonable since her saying no one else reacted like I did suggested to me that I was the one who reacted unreasonably.

I made the anonymous post explaining exactly what happed. No embellishment to my honest recollection of the event. After the explanation of the event, I explained how it made me feel and how I interpreted the event. I invited others to share their thoughts. They felt that her words were indeed hurtful and said mean things about her given that they couldn't believe someone would say that to their partner.

My partner saw the online post and immediately started to cry and said it was a massive violation of trust for having aired our dirty laundry for the world to see and saying how could I be okay with people saying such nasty things about her. One year has gone by and I'm still healing from the thing she said to me that lead me to make the post, but when I bring the situation up to try to get full closure, she mentions the post as having been a wrongful reaction on my part.

So I'm wondering - is sharing your relationship problems online in an anonymous fashion a wrongful act?