I’ve been dating my boyfriend (26) for about a year, and we recently moved in together. Overall things have been great. He’s sweet, responsible, and we communicate well. There’s just one thing that’s been bugging me.

Every single night, he FaceTimes his mom right before bed. I’m not exaggerating. Every. Night. It’s not a quick check-in either. It’s usually around 30 minutes of chatting, and sometimes they talk about stuff I’m literally in the room for, like what we ate for dinner or a movie we just watched. It makes me feel like I’m living with both of them.

At first I thought it was sweet. He’s close with his mom, and I respect that. But after a few months of this being a nightly routine, it started to get on my nerves. We’ll be cuddling or watching something, and he’ll pause it to take her call. Or we’ll be talking and he’ll say “Hold on, I have to call my mom.” It kind of kills the vibe.

I brought it up gently and said I thought it was maybe too much to talk every single night. I suggested that maybe he could do every other night instead, or maybe keep the calls shorter. He looked shocked and said that his mom is his best friend, and this is just what they do. He said I was being controlling and trying to mess with his routine. He also said if it was my dad calling every night, he wouldn’t complain.

I told him it’s not about being jealous of his mom, it’s about feeling like I’m sharing my boyfriend with someone else when we’re supposed to be having our own time. He said I was making it into something it’s not.

Now things are tense and I’m wondering if I overstepped. AITAH?