My fiance (p) has a female friend, lets call her Mel, who I have had problems with since we met. Back story- they worked together about 6 years ago and after my fiance went through a painful breakup Mel suggested that they become fuck buddies which they did for a little while until they decided that they would be better as friends. When I started dating my fiance she would call him and was “concerned” for him cause she didn’t like his ex girlfriend’s. Since then there have been little things that have bothered me like- If I posted a picture of me and p she would dm me and say how cute he is. Me and p went to a ball and I posted a pic of me and she msgd me to ask if she could have one of p in a suit. She got married and asked p to be apart of the wedding and then p was mentioned in 3 wedding speeches. There is a lot more. It was p’s birthday and she sent him a msg and ten love hearts. I am over her wierd behavior, in person she acts possessive of him and she gives me bad vibes. I fully trust my fiance, I just feel disrespected by her and if she wants to stay in our lives I want her to respect me or just go away. My fiance wants to do whatever I am comfortable with, so would I be an arse hole if I told her she needs to be respectful?