There is a lot of context to this. My (33F) husband (29M) resigned from his mechanic job (heavy duty mining) in mid March. He was forced into a tight spot when he found out he failed a drug test and wanted to resign before the company let him go. This was all news to me and I didn't know he had issues with drug use occasionally. A lot of trust was broken and he put our family in a not so great spot (we have a child in daycare).

I was really hesitant on what to do but his sister and him came up with a plan. Have him get out of the industry by working on IT certifications and she would sent us a set amount of money a month and he would get a part time job to make up the difference and go to an outpatient therapy program.

Here's the issue - it's been almost two months and there is no progress on his side. He started outpatient therapy, but he has given up on doing certificates. He says they are useless and he wouldn't pass anyway. He doesn't apply for any jobs and honestly doesn't utilize his days. I make a little over 100k a year and I'm just asking him to get something making 45-50k a year - his job he lost was 65-70k. But there is no urgency for him since his sister is helping us. The only thing is our budget is SO tight because we still have a deficit of 1200-1700 because his part time job he never got was suppose to bring in the rest monthly. I'm honestly just getting exhausted that I'm paying for everything and there isn't any sort of motivation and I think his stubbornness is borderline childish.

He finally has two offers he got today. However, they are mechanic jobs. I told him let's accept them and keep them as back ups (the start date is mid May) and he can keep applying for IT jobs (even though he has no credentials) to see if something comes up. He is mad that these jobs pay under 20 an hour, but I have to tell him that he doesn't have crendtiald or education so he'd have to start from the bottom. Today he freaked out on me for even wanting him to accept a job he wouldn't be happy with and constantly tells me that wasn't the plan him and his sister made. He basically wants to ghost these employers, instead of reaching out to turn down the offer.

I'm honestly just at the end of my patience. His sister is not helping us forever and I need us to bring in more monthly and I feel like he is not putting a priority on that. One of the jobs he was offered today as a mechanic is probably the most he'd ever get paid as one (starting at 85k) but he just wants to ghost them after their offer to him today. He doesn't want to get any certifications or take classes at our community college and just thinks he will be handed this amazing laying IT job. I tell him the market is rough out there and he will poke at me on how I got my job and when not satisfied with my answer will say well how did you get the job that let you there. We clearly have different views on work ethic and it's starting to get to me. I worked full time getting my bachelors and worked full time while raising our newborn when I started my masters. When I wanted a promotion I got my PMP and studied my ass off. I'm just exhausted.

So Reddit - AITA for telling him to accept these positions?