I (31F) have a 4-month-old daughter. For Easter, my parents planned a small gathering at 4pm. It’s just going to be me, my husband, our daughter, his parents, and my cousin. My husband and I are both only children, and this is the first grandchild for both sides of the family.

Our daughter has a consistent bedtime of 7pm. That’s her natural rhythm—by that time, she gets overtired and fussy, and trying to push her past it usually leads to a lot of crying and a long night for everyone. So, I politely asked my parents if we could bump the gathering to 2pm and eat around 5:30pm. That way, we could enjoy dinner with everyone and still get home in time for her bedtime.

Unfortunately, they weren’t very receptive. They told me it was rude to ask to change the time and said I should just put her to bed at their house, wake her up later, and take her home. I tried to explain that this doesn’t work for her—waking her up like that just leads to a meltdown and a terrible night for all of us.

They eventually agreed to change the time to 2pm, but they made it very clear how upset they were. They said I was ruining their plans and kept reminding me how inconvenient it was for them. Meanwhile, my in-laws and cousin were totally understanding and didn’t mind the earlier start time at all.

So… AITAH for even asking? I really wasn’t trying to be difficult—I just wanted to make it possible for us to all spend a little more time together as a family, especially so our daughter could see her grandparents. I even said that if it stayed at 4pm, we’d just have to leave early before dinner. But now I feel like Easter is going to be super awkward and we did not end the phone call on good terms.