Part of me hates that I’m turning to Reddit this, but I’m not sure who is in the wrong. The last seven months my boyfriend and I have been building a house for context we live together in a 400 ft.² apartment that has been driving us crazy for a year and a half because it is so small we live in a small town and I have two very good friends here, who since we have started building the house I have been noticeably absent all the time go out every weekend etc. but lately because of us doing a lot of work on the house, my friends have called me a flake for not having the available time in my schedule to hang out for context. I worked an 8 to 5 job doing most of the work on the house that we are trying to move in within nine months of starting. I feel like I have missed big life events with my friends, but I made sure to be at the really important ones like my friends college graduation.. my boyfriend Tyler feels like I have been taking too much time for my friends and not enough time on the house. Anytime I spend with my friends. He make sure to make me know how he feels abandoned and like I’m not pulling my weight and I don’t know who is the asshole. Is it my friends for making me feel guilty for accomplishing a huge thing in my life and having to work at it is it my boyfriend for making me feel guilty for needing to have some time with my friends? Or is it should I have figured out a balance by now.