I graduated last summer, so it's coming up to almost a year now. I went through a really hard time all throughout my education because of some family issues that affected my mental health and wellbeing. Despite this I graduated from a pretty tough degree with a top grade and landed a job at a fairly big company.

Im the only one in my family to have gotten a degree. They were proud of me, I know they really were, and they came to my ceremony and we had such a lovely day. They got me flowers and we went out for a meal after. But I was expecting a celebration, I don't mean anything crazy like a party in a hired venue, literally just anything at all at home, with some of the rest of my family or even just them if it couldn't work. My family have celebrated me in the past, when I've passed my GCSEs for example. Even when I passed my first semester exams last year my sister got me a little cake.

So I've been pretty shocked that it's coming up to a year and they've just done nothing. I've had friends in the year behind me graduate and gone to their parties and wondered why my family couldn't pull a thing together. It's not even a matter of not knowing - they knew I wanted something, they told me they would. In January I did mention my disappointment to my mum and i know she felt really bad, apparently they had wanted to do something but things kept getting in the way. She had fallen ill for a few weeks, a cousin had gotten married, etc etc. My mum has very recently been diagnosed with a health condition that makes her really weak, and she has been a hoarder her entire life so she has apparently been cleaning the house so this is why they couldn't invite anyone She has been cleaning the house her entire life but i have seen her pull it together for so many events, like my sister has gotten married in this house. And it's literally been 10 months. And it's been 4 months since we had that conversation.

Im even more angry and disappointed as time has gone on and I am holding myself back from saying something. AITA? I don't know if I'm being ridiculous. Even if they threw me a party at this point because I mentioned it in January I feel like it's a pity thing and if they really did truly care they would have made the effort long ago, but i don't know if this is just me being spoiled and entitled as the youngest child

Edit: I'm getting a lot of comments from people saying they don't get what the big deal is - I don't really care if graduating is important to you or not. It is a big deal to me and to my family. I also am aware that I was celebrated, the point that I think I've made pretty clear is that it isn't in the way I expected. So telling me that 'it isn't a big deal, you were celebrated' is really just pointless.