I am a very lazy, selfcentered, honest, minimalistic nerd with zero empathy for humans. I like animals tho. All I do is work and play games. So I have been most of my life alone and fine with it. Now I ended up in a relationship for a couple of years already now. During this time I made the following very often clear:

• I don't believe in love
• I don't care much about you
• I will never get married
• I don't want children
• I am with you aslong it's convenient
• Your role is to be my maid, chef, driver or whatever I need to make my lazy life easier

I also set up annual feedback meetings to remind my partner of this. My partner never really reply to this only chuckles but plays her role well like feeding me while I play my game.

All she cares and request about is food. So we go out 2-5 times per day to eat somewhere. During this time we don't talk much because I am always reading and requested her to not talk to me so I don't loose my immersion.

She always asks stuff like do you love me or do you care about me. I don't answer because I feel conflicted. I know she wants me to say yes even if it's a lie but I won't say it. When I say no she will be upset so I just ignore it.

Often I wonder why she wastes her time with being with me so I ask her and she always replies:

• I love you sooo much
• You are so kind
• You look so good

None of them are good reasons for me but I just try to kinda accept it.

Sometimes she gets really upset and starts drama for literally no reason. I don't want her to be around me then so I break up with her immediately. This happened twice and she is always so surprised and shocked and want to stay together. I gave in everytime because she says she will be better.

Maybe relevant infos:

• I pay for everything (food, apartments, etc.)
• She is working too and she likes to buy unnecessary stuff for me (mostly brand clothes)
• I dislike physical work and sweating but she likes it and often ask for it

I think I can't be the asshole since she is a grown up woman who can make her own decisions and it's not like I force her to stay with me. But when I read other posts where the husband is the asshole for not cleaning after himself and not taking care and show love to their wife I feel kinda attacked since it's the same I do.

So AITAH?