So a little backstory. I’m F19 and i’m having a bit of trouble with one of my bestfriends M20 (lets call him mike) for almost 10 years.

Now Mike has been seeing this guy (Jake) for about 5 months. A few months in, Mike told me that Jake had said some unkind things about me. I was in a mental facility for 2 weeks unexpectedly, and my birthday was in a month and Mike and one of my other friends had booked a trip away for my birthday like 3 months before i even knew i was going in. Anyways, Jake had made some comments like “whys she going away if shes in a mental facility” mind you, it was a 2 week program. And he also said that i went to the facility to “promote” my birthday trip because no one was going? (Even tho mike and my other friends were going and thats all i needed)

Its always been a bit back and forth from then with him. He’s said some pretty cruel things to me and i dont mean to be rude, but he is one of those mean awful stuck up, my shit dont stink gays.

I always used to say to Mike that if my boyfriend ever spoke to my friends like that, it would be done. Mind you, i have had alot of friends that had boyfriends, and never ever had a problem getting along with any of them. Except one that bullied me and dated my friend at the time- keep that in mind

Mike is the complete opposite gay. Bit of a shit talker, but wont say it to your face.

Mike would talk to me about Jake too and i just dont get a good relationship vibe from this man either.

Anyways, my last straw was a couple of days ago.

I had gone on tiktok live as a jokelol i was bored. Mind u on my fake account. Had my camera on and everything, and i was with a friend (Amelia). We were just talking to another fella we met on there and Mike joins on his account. Turns out he was also with Jake. Now I could tell jake was making those sly comments going at me, and then started to fat shame me. Mike had then left the live and messaged me saying Jake was rude.

Next minute, someone comes on requesting to be a guest. Turns out it was Jake on his fake account. He then starts to continue shaming me again. Now Amelia, goes off her nut. While Mike, my bestfriend, is sitting there in silence letting him talk about me like that.

I ended up getting banned cause some inappropriate stuff was said.

I was so mad and upset. I could not believe my bestfriend could sit there and let him talk about me like that. Mind you, on a live stream.

Mike messaged me, saying we need to organise coffee to diffuse this situation. But i am seriously not interested. Just took me back to highschool when my past friends boyfriend would shame me and she wouldnt do anything about it.

He then sent a long message, saying its his fault because hes basically the stirrer. Saying stuff to me about Jake and stuff hes said about me, and then who knows what Mike was telling Jake. (I always knew Mike was a shit talker, but didnt think i would be on that side of it.) he also said if nothing gets done he will be “forced to choose the 1 that pushes him to be better”

My response was - Right so ur choosing the one that fat shames me in front of ur face.

He doesn’t really seem to be phased that it is a disgusting personality. Especially since the same boyfriend of my friend that bullied me, bullied him for being gay.

I am just so annoyed and upset. I dont want to beg for our friendship because why should i be bloody doing that. I understand if maybe i talk bad about him to Mike, but he does that to himself. Mike has rarely talked good about Jake.

My boyfriend thinks i should just kinda leave him and he will come back when things go to shit with this guy, but I dont want to be here for him when he falls. Like i know irs selfish but im sorry, the signs are right in fromt of him that Jake is an awful person. He has even had a Jake Hate party thrown for him, and not for good reasons.

ALSO- some context of this man too. I thought this was messed up. The guy that we were talking to on live before Mike and Jake joined. He went live with them last night, and told me that Jake leaked Mikes, full legal name, DOB and HIS ADDRESS???!!!!! I was so 🤯🤯🤯.

What yall think? AITAH?