so me(17f) and my boyfriend(17m) broke up a about a month ago. we broke up because i asked a guy that he has been really insecure about (my male friend that i’ve known since 9th grade in a senior now) to take me to the other side of the pool. he’s so insecure about him because his friends keep comparing him and the guy and making it seem like the guys is interested in me. every time he complained about him i always listened. and did the best i could with my circumstances and school unfortunately the guy is part of my friend group so i can’t completely get away from the guy. when i call my friends he’s in the group chat, when i eat lunch at school he’s there and in my last two classes he’s there. i’ve never had feelings for this guy never did anything to make a move. the guy also dated my best friend so why would i try to go for him?

the reason my boyfriend broke up with me is because i had asked the guy to take me from one side of the pool to the other but in order to do that he had to pick me up. and now that the situation has happened and i take some fault in that, i didn’t think about how it would look to others and that’s my fault. to me it was a simple question of can you take me from here to here. it was 5 foot pool and i’m 4”11 and i did try to get there on my own and i was completely under the water in the middle of the pool so i couldn’t just get out and walk i was already in the deep end anyways, he found out because his friends told him that i let another guy pick me and and that i was flirting with him and other people which is just not true one bit i never flirted with anyone. his friends were joking on him and clowning him that i let another dude pick me up and unfortunately the same person people that were feeding into this narrative were friends of mine that i’ve know for 4 years. the thing is, this one girl in particular i’ve had problems with before because she would tell my ex information that i told her specifically and when i would ask where he got this info from he would defend her and tell me that he couldn’t say anything because they didn’t want me to know who it was which made me upset because you’d rather defend her and allow me to be upset? and there had been other situations where something questionable happened and i never accused him of anything and i never came up to him with disrespect nor rudeness but i didn’t get that same respect.

he didn’t believe me because even my friend was saying that i was doing all that stuff. i never asked my friend why they did they or ever confronted them because i didn’t want to start a problem or ruin anything between us i just held in that hurt and let it go. later on, i get a text from my ex boyfriend because someone was saying that the guy that he’s insecure over walks me to my bus but failed to tell him that i walk with 3 other people. i was super upset and was crying. i called him to tell him that it wasn’t true and to make his friends leave me alone. he said it was my fault that people perceived it that way because i still hang out with him then he hung up on me. i’m texting him and he’s not replying when i go check instagram and i see the same friends that’s “told” on me were out eating with him and honestly that hurt my feelings because he hadn’t been out to eat with me when we were dating. then i look again and i see he brought them cooking when a week before we broke up i wanted him to do that for me. then crazily she posted on instagram on her close friends a video of them sitting and eating in the car and covered his face with a picture, she removed me from it so i wouldn’t see but i feel like if she knew it would hurt my feelings why even post it in the first place? i might be over thinking it but im not sure.a part of me feels like it was deliberately to hurt my feelings and i really don’t know if its even worth it to say anything. i do want to say me and my ex are still in contact with each other, we text often and he have had multiple talks of if we were getting back together or not and i don’t want to come off as like a jealous ex because im not jealous and i don’t want them to stop being friends because of me, im more upset at the fact of what my friend did and why i feel like it was on purpose to hurt my feelings. i found out because my actual friend send me a screen recording of it and i told her not to say anything and maybe it wasn’t what he think it is and she posted something petty on her notes and they all say it. i really didn’t want to start any conflict and now i feel like i HAVE to say something but im don’t know if its worth it. if im wrong please tell me.