📝 AITAH for being upset with my friends for not attending a party

By crackleeeee • Score: 1 • April 18, 2025 2:12 AM


I have been going through a really difficult time recently. Since I've graduated high school, all of my closest friends have moved away to go off to college while I decided to stay in town and get a job. The year started off fine, but all my friends have eventually started drifting from me, and the only person I feel like I have left is my boyfriend. After expressing these feelings to him, my boyfriend decided to try to throw a party for me at his house, inviting all my friends to cheer me up since this was affecting me so much. For background information, one of my close friends stayed in town and commuted to school, one went to school 30 mins away and would always be back in town on weekends, and the other goes to school 2 hours away but was back in town for the weekend. I invited the three of them to this party, stressing how much it meant to me and why I wanted them to come. The day of the party comes and only one of my friends that I went to school with came. None of my close friends that I considered some of my best friends. 4 of my boyfriends friends came, 3 of which I don't get along with. I was humiliated. I didn't get a text or call saying that none of my close friends wouldn't be able to make it. I got one text saying they "probably" won't be able to make it, but never followed up. I spent 5 hours desperately hoping that maybe one of them would show up. That I wouldn't feel like a loser. Nothing. As I was leaving my boyfriends house, I got a text from the one I considered the closest saying she just woke up. It was 12am midnight. I was devastated to find out that I really didn't mean that much to them. I went home and cried myself to sleep in my boyfriends arms, not before sending a text expressing how upset I was. It wasn't until I got a text at 4:30pm the next day that any of them addressed it. It was an apology text. Great, I'll take it. 2 hours later I get a text from the other 2 with the most backhanded apology ever. Basically saying "I'm sorry but there's nothing we can do. It's in the past, so just grow up and move on". I understand that they get busy with their schooling, but I don't ask for anything from them. I've never asked for anything until this party. I'm also basically working a full time job, working 7-11 hour shifts, 5 days a week. I somehow managed to get a shift covered just so I could have a chance of seeing my friends again. This all happened about 3 weeks ago and I just brought up how I'm still kind of upset about it to one of my friends and we've been fighting all day about it. I've definitely taken a step back from that friend group, feeling like I can't trust them and that they don't care for me as much as I cared for them. AITAH?

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