We are supposedly closing on a house tomorrow. Appointment is scheduled for 11am at the title company for paperwork. Obviously, it’s a big deal. For anyone never gone through the process, it involves both the sellers and the buyers, the realtors on both sides, title company, a notary, the works.

We were informed that the instructions for wiring the closing costs money would be sent today, and needed to be completed asap once received. The money needed to be posted and completed before our we can sign paperwork tomorrow or we can’t close. Sometimes there’s a lag or a hold due to the large amounts being transferred -hence the need for it to be done asap.

Dh worked tonight. He knew wiring instructions would come to him while he was working. (The funds for the money are in HIS solo account. He has to call the bank, verify his identify, and do it. I cannot complete the transfer.) He was aware. Told me to just call his work phone once instructions come through and he’d watch it closely. We were both in agreement.

Long behold, transfer instructions come through as expected. I call his phone. He quickly answers saying “can’t you just figure out how to do it, I’m really busy.” Um, no. I literally cannot. He hangs up. I call again in a few mins. Nothing. Sent him numerous text messages over the span of 3 hours. Nothing. Eventually I get a quick text that says “figure it out I’m in hell over here idk why you’re yelling at me.”

He still has not completed the transaction and the bank is now closed. Next earliest transfer time is tomorrow. All parties are waiting on this. All I can do now is have him initiate the transfer first thing in the morning once the bank opens and pray it’s completed by 11am (which it probably won’t be.)

AITAH for being really pissed off? I get that he’s working and shit happens. But, this wasn’t a surprise call. It’s the biggest purchase of our lives and he’s jeopardizing the entire sale (and thus the really good school district we got our kids zoned into, not having a place to live once our lease is up, etc.) I don’t feel like telling everyone at his work that “hey, I have a family emergency and I need 10 mins” is asking too much.

I can’t tell if I’m being too hard on him or it’s justified but I’m sitting at home beyond mad and stressed that he couldn’t find 10 mins. And now he’s mad at me for not being more understanding.