My gf and I have been dating for a few months now, and I've always told them I'm a words of affirmation kinda person. We've had a few instances where they'd go a whole day with out messaging me which they know really upsets me, and some days where we will be on the phone chatting for hours which I love! I just love hearing what they have to say and I'm excited to tell them about my day and to hear about theirs.

The few times I've told them I'm upset that they aren't talking to me or about something in our relationship in general, suddenly something bigger happens to them or they have a bigger reaction and I end up calming them down and supporting them without my feelings being heard or validated. For example, once I told them I really want them to come to me, as I'm the one who drives to them or drives them home and theyve not made a journey to see me yet. They ended up sobbing saying they have chronic pain (which same) and I have to get used to them being disabled. Or when they spent a whole day with no contact leaving me panicking and stressed, their ex messaged them late that night and they had a panic attack.

Last night I messaged them saying I missed them because we haven't spoken much in the past few days. They said I'm just lonely because I haven't been able to go to my dance classes because I've adopted a new puppy, but really I just wanted to tell them about my day and the meeting I had! They ended up not messaging me the rest of the day. I sent them a some messages, one saying I missed them, another saying we need to talk about relationship stuff (they said they'd rather have a "we need to talk" message instead of me just going straight into things and talking), another asking for help because my I was helping a friend through a traumatic time which triggered my own ptsd, one telling them I'm staying up for a few more hours to get the puppy to use the bathroom, and one to say I took my sleeping pill and I'm going to bed. I get a text at 6.30 the next morning from their best friend who hates me saying they had a seizure in the early hours of the morning. They said they don't want me "overwhelming" them with messages and to give them space. Have I over stepped by sending 5 messages in a row without a response? Am I being too clingy and needy? AITA?

EDIT: I'm not asking my gf to message me all day every day about what they are doing. Just if they are busy one day to tell me so I don't wonder why they haven't spoken to me. Or to message me in the evenings so we can chat about our days. Im not asking for excessive messages. I just want a natter.