So I (M24) have been with my girlfriend (F23) for almost 3 months now. We've done a ton of touching/oral and plenty of sexting, but we haven't gone all the way yet. We both live with our families and have kind of limited privacy outside of a car. She's been with several people before me, and we've talked so many times about how badly we want to do it.

Well, anyways, her sister was in a nearby city for a business trip. And my gf had this idea that we could make an overnight trip out of that and get a room in the same hotel as her sister. This was much easier to explain to her family rather than "I'm going to go spend the night with a guy". Well, I agreed to this plan and the cost of the room (I paid) came out to $450 USD and change (very expensive city/fancy hotel). In the days leading up to it we talked a lot about sex and how excited we were. I mean, make no mistake, we were going to do some stuff in the city but this trip was almost entirely planned around sex.

So the day of, we check in to the room, spend a few hours in the city, go to dinner, then come home for bed, saving the sexy stuff for the nighttime. We get back and start fooling around. And eventually she really wants it and asks me to put on a condom. And as I'm about to get into the act, she asks to stop - I oblige. And she wants to talk for a bit. And then she eventually decides she doesn't want to have sex. That she isn't ready and that it isn't going to happen. Then she goes off to talk to her sister a bit and comes back and we go to bed. She also begs me not to leave her over this and I told her I wouldn't.

I broke up with her the next day, telling her this just wasn't going to work. My feelings were a bit hurt because she'd slept with several people (like at least 10) in the past, some of those being hookups/one night stands. I didn't directly tell her that part though. The money wasn't the biggest issue to me (even though it felt like a waste), the event just helped show me that we were not going to work. She didn't take this very well and said that all I wanted was sex.

Part of me does feel bad. But the other half of me knows I value sex in a relationship, and after 3 months without any, it was a compatibility issue.