So, we’re on our way somewhere and I asked my boyfriend (we’ve been together about 1 month 1/2) if we could stop for a coke. He told me “yes, but only if you get a diet coke. I’m not stopping if you get a regular one.” At first, I was taken aback by that, and told him that was a tad controlling. His response was I was always thinking of the dark side of things, and he just cares about my health. Am I the asshole for calling him controlling or is this a very subtle abuse tactic?