So my friend texted me on October 7 last year, expressing sympathy for the attacks in Israel. She's Christian, I'm Jewish. I wrote back thanking her but saying that I was worried about everyone in that area, not just one side.

A year later she does it again - after not texting much of anything else all year. "Thinking of you and your people this anniversary eve!" I was grossed out - it felt really tokenistic and ignorant. I wrote back very carefully and nicely. I said I appreciated her good intentions and her wanting to be an ally, but that the Jewish community actually has a wide diversity of perspectives on Israel, and you can't assume we all feel the same way, and her text was inappropriate. I suggested other, less controversial ways to be an ally, like wishing someone a happy new year (it was right after Rosh Hashanah) or texting about safer topics so the friendship had more grounding when hard things did come up.

Well she LOST IT. She blew up at me. A few months later I tried to call her, saying I’m sorry she was hurt and I’d love to talk and make up, but she was just super nasty in response. I don't know how to come back from this.

So I really don't get it... AITAH? What would you have done?