A better question might be “am I the dumbass?” but both apply.

I won’t lie, I’m in my late 20s and still a virgin as a man (for dark reasons that will probably get this post taken down, about 50% my fault and 50% having life totally get in my way).

So I did something most men in my situation would never do and are commonly told to not do if they’re in my situation: went for a beyond gorgeous woman. Why? Because I caught genuine, massive feelings for her that went beyond just her appearance. She and I were friends since 2014, though I went silent on her for 5 years.. This is bolded to get the point across that she wasn’t just some hottie in a club.

I didn’t want to ask out a woman who I was literally intimidated by, but I understand we are living in times where not getting ghosted is a feat. Then we’re onto the next level: not getting bullshit answers like “ya I’m just busy”. Then maybe we have someone who’s willing to keep us in their lives for a short time before vanishing, and this is already hard now for a lot of men I talk to. This is why I, despite being inexperienced, asked out a woman far from my league, because I had already gotten farther along with her than the others. And she genuinely made me smile, and I’ve never gotten a bullshit answer from her like “I’ve been busy (for ten centuries)”.

I’m not sure why she rejected me just yet, so I can only speculate. But I am wondering if I was an idiot for doing this, regardless of the other factors at play.