[ I posted this again as the other post was too long ] Hi! I'm new to this Community, my pseudonym is Nelia. My Father (47M) and my Mom (46F) have been married for 16 years and I was the result of it (14F). "He" has cheated on my mom for multiple times over the span of 14 years due to their issues with the same woman, we'll call her Tiger Lily. Earlier this year, they had a big argument involving the usage of our car, and recently, My Uncle (Father's side) arranged an outing for us because it was summer vacation + my grandma's birthday.

During the stay on our resort, "He" has been much more distant. But the day we were about to leave, he asked my cousin to buy some sort of food from the reception at the resort, and when my Cousin returned and handed him the food, I saw his phone, It was opened and he was messaging someone on viber, I didn't see clearly as I had no glasses on, but I could kind of make out the shapes of 'Love you's' and a heart. That instantly made me on high alert mode. The day after we returned home, I got sulky about hanging the clothes that we washed as I was feeling unwell, and he reacted aggressively. The argument escalated, and he raised his fist, I flinched, and that's when my trust for him shattered.

My other Uncle separated us, but he said "Kung Gago yung Mama mo, Mas gago ako!" (Trans: If you're mother is stupid, I'm more stupider!") that made me word vomit and explode, I cussed him out like the little petty girl I am and told him atleast my mother doesn't go doing other relationships with people while she's still married, and that I'm not blind to the messages I saw back at the resort. I hit a pretty sensitive topic, and my Aunt, Uncle, and Grandma pulled me inside the house. I was shaking and locked myself in the bathroom, instantly called my mom so I can go home. My mom is supportive of me and wants me to prioritize my safety. Now, I'm wondering if I'm the asshole for wanting to cut contact with him due to his actions and my safety concerns.

I'm currently home now and Left our life 360 so he'll never know what I'm up to. I also approved of my mom of asking my aunt to tell him to leave us alone until he's ready to speak with Us. But Incase he does speak to us, I won't forgive him and definitely go Low Contact