I (22F) have been in a relationship with my partner (23m) for three years. We live together, I stay home while he works. I put in my half of life. I cook, clean, take care of our two cats, fish tank, and make sure he’s as stress free as possible while he’s home. I will FOREVER be so thankful for everything he has done for me and our relationship, But there’s one thing that we used to have that we don’t anymore. Intimacy. I personally value intimacy A LOT more than the average human id say. That was made clear in the beginning of the relationship.

I’ve had conversations with him where he’d spew the “I’ll try harder” then he’d maybe rub my butt on occasion and the occasional hand on thigh. But after a week it stops. I had woken up from a short nap to find out he had gone to… 🍆✊ in the bathroom. after months of me almost begging for any sort of intimacy… noticing it made my heart hurt. I tried maintaining the same look as I did three years ago. I tried dressing up how he likes, I tried initiating, I tried everything I can think of.

It’s genuinely hurting.

I’m not sure how much longer I can put up with it but this man is my entire world. I know i shouldn’t have jumped into this situation so quick but I love him so much that I ignored my issues and expected them to just. Go away. Yes I am partially to Blame I know it’s not all him but like.. am I an ass for wanting to stop trying? I feel like I’m the one really trying to get better. (AGAIN! I KNOW I JUMPED IN TOO SOON) but I need advice. What should I do? I don’t wanna leave but this is physically painful at this point