Hi, I 22F and just discovered porn on my boyfriend 25M’s phone. Porn was always allowed in our relationship of 4 years up until a month ago. I wasn’t comfortable with him watching porn after finding out that he paid cam girls on livestream. After then, I realized we never had a proper discussion about my boundaries with cam girls, we decided to stop watching porn altogether and only hentai was allowed. Today, I went through his phone and found downloaded porn videos from a few weeks ago (after our talk). As soon as I found this out, I sat him down and we had a talk. I do not think I can move past him breaking my trust like that. Additionally, two weeks ago, I shared with him my experience switching to hentai and he agreed and shared with me his thoughts too -while conveniently forgetting to mention he restarted watching porn… He explained himself by saying he was used to porn, that it was just a habit and he did not think much of it and that is why he forgot to tell me how he felt about being forbidden porn. Anyways, I feel really bad to end things after 4 years over something that used to be allowed in our relationship, but this hurts and feels like he cheated on me. Can trust be build back up again? Am I the asshole for wanting to break up?