Hi, so bit of context, my mum (56f) has always treated me (18f) and my brother (16m) differently, she would treat him like pure gold and me like gum stuck to the bottom of her shoe. My brother is autistic but has greatly improved and worked on being "normal" pretty much masking it, the last 3 years were really tough on my brother and he stopped going to school and got tutored at home and my mum would treat him with so much kindness and care, then my mental health went down hill so bad I stopped going to school around the same time because of panic attacks around leaving the house (it may have been slightly before but I cant quite remember) my mum would shout at me and berrate me for not going, (I didn't know it at the time but I have severe anxiety and depression) it made me feel like crap, seeing how me and my brother were both off school for valid reasons yet I was the only one being berrated for it. Anyways I think that's enough to understand the situation partially.

So fast forward to around March of 2024, I'm 16 at the time and I come home to see my auntie there and before she leaves to go home I pull her aside to tell her "I'm pregnant." She was shocked as anyone would be and i asked her to hold off telling my mum for a bit because I could predict exactly how she would react. She leaves but 5 minutes later calls my phone and says she can't keep this secret from her two closest friends (my parents) so she was coming back to tell them. Luckily my mum had about half a bottle of wine (shared with my auntie) so she was pretty chilled out, when she was told she was so excited and happy. That day wasn't the issue. It was the coming 2 or 3 days. She begged me to get an abortion, she would yell at me saying she didn't raise me like this and screaming that I'm too much of a lazy twat to have a baby. She would rampage (shes disabled btw) around the house screaming that if I want this baby she's gonna leave because we would all be better off, she threatened to kill herself twice and then I had to pull my dad and (other) aunt out of work to help calm the situation down because I was fearing for my safety at that point. After we had the first scan she calmed down a bit because my daughter looked like a baby. She fell in love with her after that scan. She would still have breakdowns consisting of how ill be a shit mum and things along those lines but it got worse when I was 30 weeks pregnant. She said "I can't wait for you to have our little baby!" And "I'm so excited to see her head pop out of you" and i was just staring at her like, no you're not even being in the delivery room. She once again started going on about how I was cruel and how she will never get this chance again to watch a grandchild of hers be born. Not much else nlte worthy happened until after my baby girl was born, she would tell me I was doing everything wrong, you know what it wasn't even telling it was screaming it at me, she said I can't use baby wipe I need to use cotton wool and water, that I shouldn't use disposable nappies that cloth ones are perfect, that I should breastfeed exclusively even though it was excruciating to me, that when shes on solids I have to make all the purees myself. And it went on and on and on for months. I finally had enough last month. I managed to get to the council and ask if there's a way me, my partner and baby can get out safely because she would snap so often I got scared she would hurt me as she has a handful of times in the past few years. They gave us a hotel to stay at then found us a temp house and now a rented house.

I forgot to mention but she has been in some legal trouble involving her parents because she tried to unalive my grandma and scared her to the point my cousin called the police. So I had no contact with my grandparents for years because my mum said she'd kick me out, now I'm in contact with them and they've shown me proof of it all.

But here's where it's tricky my whole family is calling me an AH because I am not speaking with my mum anymore and she's telling them all she never did such a thing.

TLDR; my mum verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abused me throughout me being pregnant and a new mum and she's telling my family she didn't so they keep calling me TAH.