Me and my bf we are 30ish, and we’re in a relationship for about 2 yrs.

So… here’s the case, I’m a freelancer, I work with a lot of people, parties, concerts and celebrities and often after work I go out with a few clients for a couple of drinks to do some networking and that’s ok. My bf works as a freelancer too, with a lot of women, gamble and shifts at night. And that’s ok by me, I totally trust him.

My problem is… when I go out he became annoying, calls me every second and if I don’t answer he begins to think that I’m with another guy, if I don’t reply his messages in about 5 minutes he start accusing me for cheating, for disappearing, for lying and stuff like that, but I’m only busy chatting with some people (and I think is very impolite to be at my phone when someone is talking to me). I was so pissed off after so many conversations we had, so many explanations I did, so many nights talking about our relationship’s trust, but he seemed don’t understand why I can’t reply him when he text me. (And he says he only does this because is for my own safety)

So I begun to do the same thing with him… I mean, I never cared if he doesn’t reply me instant, but I’m beginning to think that If he doesn’t understand, I’m going show him how this behavior is horrible for us as a couple and as a freelancer and how it’s extremely controlling. I started to stalking him with who he was with, when, calling so many times, asking him where he was, sending a lot of messages asking why he didn’t answer me, and all that stuff…

So… AITAH for doing this? For doing the same thing he does?