I (20F) and my bf (18M) have been back together for about 3 months and everything has been smooth. reason i say back together is because we were previously together January 2024-October 2024 and broke up because his best friend told me and showed me proof that he cheated (this is important) when he told me i confronted my bf as anyone would idk why i would be expected to keep that to myself and i tried to not even tell my bf who told me but eventually gave in because he kept asking and told him his best friend told me and that really pissed him off. we broke up but had issues staying away from each other. i was severely hurt inside and never felt so low and insecure in my life as many would, but i was still so in love with this guy. we decided to get back together and i know a lot of you probably think i shouldn’t have but he promised to change and promised he wanted a relationship with me so i agreed, the great thing is that i have seen a change in his behavior and love for me and i have no suspicions of him cheating again but it is still early and while i don’t make petty comments or anything i definitely still think about him cheating sometimes and it does hurt but i try to focus on the now instead of the past, now back to his best friend, his best friend has held a grudge with me since i ratted him out for telling me my man cheated but idk what he expected from me was i really supposed to just keep it to myself? i’ve tried to regain his trust and not cause problems. this week on tuesday me and my bf were invited to go have some fun at his best friends house, it was me and my bf, his best friend and his gf, and his coworker and his gf, i have no memory of this i was completely blacked out given that i don’t drink often because it brings up past trauma for me and i should’ve considered this more before drinking the way i did but i was just genuinely trying to have a good time. so the issue from what my bf told me is apparently i brought up to the other girls how my bf had cheated on me in the past and apparently i called him a POS im not a sneaky two faced person but when im hurt i guess i can get mouthy, i have no idea what brought me to bring this up and for me to say that about him but i can only think that i was so drunk and still holding some of that hurt from him and it just came right out like throw up, now his coworkers gf doesn’t trust his coworker to hangout with my bf because he’s a bad influence because he cheated. i love my bf i would never try to disrespect him on purpose but i did disrespect him because of the hurt i feel still deep down about him disrespecting me. on top of this his bestfriend has now said im no longer allowed at his house and around his gf and if my bf wants to come over which he goes there all the time it’s like his second home. he’s not allowed to bring me i feel like a monster but my mother says i shouldn’t be blamed for speaking up especially drunk about my hurt and it’s weird for them to expect i just forgot about it. so reddit AITAH?