📝 AITAH for expressing my feelings to my friend

By Ok-Manufacturer-9751 • Score: 3 • April 17, 2025 1:34 AM


AITAH for expressing my feeling for my friend to him. I didn't want to lie so I was honest in the moment when confronted.

Let's start out by saying I M25 have been friends with M26 for about 4 years now. We met in college and have been pretty good dude bros together. I'm used to having a lot of female friends and he is one of the few guys who's befriended me. At first I didn't have a crush, we were just bros. We met at a frat party and hit it off from there. Going to the gym, working on cars, drinking beer and watching the game.

He knew I was gay because my ex boyfriend introduced us. He was one of his buddies and he was chill with it. I mean he did light teasing but I didn't stop him from being himself around me. I've witness this man cry over a break up. I've been there for him essentially without getting too into it.

So to get to the point within the last year I've slowly developed a crush on him. He treats me so nice and he just does things for me without me asking. I do the same for him, this friendship is deeper then we both like to admit in the first place. Anyway! Last Saturday was the first time I'd seen him since I'd say July. Our work schedules and lives have just been so busy we hadn't had much time to hang out. We still talk and game together and face time. Though it's a little different if that makes sense.

Long story short this man got Bulky and just dreamy. He was still the goofy loveable guy I'm friends with just a Lil super sized. We were chatting and having fun when I went off to get a drink and ran into another friend who was making comments about him. I being a tad drunk was being maybe a little too loud and said "haha yeah, he can bear hug wink wink me anytime." I guess one of his friends was near by and said something to him. Cause next thing I know he and I are alone in the garage and he asks me flat out if I meant what I said. This is where I might be the AH: "Yeah, I did mean what I said. I like you more than a friend and I can't help it M26." Of course there were tears and I was a bit more drunk than I thought.

How do I fix this we haven't talked since then. Typically after a fight we take two days and cool down. Talk it out and like make up. Now I'm hearing he's been talking about me a little aggressively and saying quite a few choice words. Is there anyway to come back from this? Should I have lied?

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